Gay Men Being Drugged, Robbed in Castro, Cops Say

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San Francisco police are asking gay men in the Castro to be a little more judicious about who they take home from the bar after a night of drinking.

It seems there have been too many instances laltely in which older gay men are being targeted by (straight) criminals who are coming into gay bars, flirting with men, and then robbing them after they take them home.

Sgt. Chuck Limbert, the LGBT liaison for the Mission District, tells us that one victim recently called him to report an incident where he was drinking at a Castro bar when a really good-looking man walked in and bought him a drink. The two began talking and after some time, the hottie suggested they go home together, Limbert said.

"[The victim] said he wasn't making good decisions, that his vision was blurry and he didn't know what was going on," Limbert said.  The two went to the victim's apartment, where he started vomiting. When he came out of the bathroom, the suspect grabbed the man's computer and demanded the victim's password. When the man refused to give it to him, the suspect hit him, and the victim ran out of the apartment, screaming.

Limbert said after that call, he was in the Castro off-duty, when other gay men approached him, telling him they, too, had been victims of similar crimes. "They would  say 'I took someone home and passed out and woke up and my credit cards were gone,' and another said he went home with someone and woke up and his entire wallet was missing," Limbert said.

As a gay man and resident of the Castro himself, Limbert decided to alert the community of these nefarious crimes, none of which are happening at any particular bar. He met with a local merchants group and offered tips to help stop gay men from becoming victims.

Bartenders and businesses should be mindful of those who have clearly had too much to drink; hail them a cab, or at the very least ask them if they are okay. Patrons should also be aware of who they are mingling with -- ask to see someone's ID before you take them home, and if you can, jot down their driver's license number before you two go home together, Limbert said.

"I think this has been going on but for a long time, but it's not being reported, because there's a perceived embarrassment associated with it," Limbert said. "People don't want to be perceived as being that naive."

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Larrygentry
Larrygentry

I think he approached me atThe Mix tonight.  Larry Gentry on Facebook if this has happened to you.

Dave R
Dave R

Too bad Lawrence "Stuart" Milk, currently of Wilton Manors, isn't advocating against this spate of crimes like his Uncle Harvey did for the community forty years ago!

withak30
withak30

I'm curious how they know that the criminals are straight.

Myob
Myob

No security cams with the suspects? Hard to believe.

Jbr415
Jbr415

Good ole SFGate comments section.  Vile, bigoted, homophobic comments race to the bottom...ready, set, go...

Yeb Bebe
Yeb Bebe

it's often from racial minorities too (think latinos and blacks)...I often wonder how much better this state would be without all the hood rats collecting welfare checks from it.

CandiEyez1
CandiEyez1

And what make you better than the rest Yev opps meant Yeb with comments like this don't ever get lost in the hood or the hood rats just might beat your ass!

Frankie Ninja
Frankie Ninja

Excuse me "Yeb", your generalization of people based on race or culture wreaks of racism and shows a lack of intellect as well as maturity and manners. Instead of "often wondering", perhaps it might actually be beneficial to "STUDY", in order to be able to register an IQ. That way you don't have to sound as utterly absurd and racist as you do.

Frankie Ninja
Frankie Ninja

With all that's going on in the country, this is just sad.

Arc13
Arc13

Actually being black myself i agree with both you, Frankie Ninja, and Yeb. Yeb is being showing signs of racism with that "hood rat" statement as well as with the "welfare checks" generalization, but there is a more pronounced homophobia within minorities such as latinos and african americans. They tend to have a slanted view of things and go for the most offensive ways of dealing with it. That's just the way people are nowadays. I personally stopped letting it bother me because im proud to be gay and i can't force people to change their perspectives just like you can't force a change of belief on the world.

Radicaljacket1953
Radicaljacket1953

This issue is happening world wide. This is what happens when the gay community decides it wants to fit in and be mainstream. 

Any gay venues for gay men, if any at all are now more inclusive, so the venues have become  not safe for gay men. And are easy targets for straights to prey on.

You all wanted equality, now you are paying for it

Arc13
Arc13

    The issue is about being mainstream or separated, because when it wasn't mainstream it was 10x more dangerous. Now the law can't look the other way if a gay man is beat or killed in some disgusting manner, now people don't have to hide who they are and then get so depressed that you have an uptake in the l amount of anti-depressants circulating the country. Having the whole gay community hidden away would make it into some little dirty secret.     These crimes are being done by the same people who used to do it to women, they chat up a target, get them drinking, get them drugged, get back to the victims house and rob them. It's targeted on gay men now because there's a lot of gay men with good jobs and money so its a candy shop for these thieves. Everywhere they look they see Gucci belts, Prada shoes, Louis Vutton bags...tons of expensive things that scream money whereas with straight clubs and such if they don't charge a lot at the door they have to find the expensive stuff and then tell if it's real or a cute knock-off. This has nothing to do with the gays going mainstream it has to do with gays being successful.     And the venues being open to everyone nowadays has to do with image. People has preconceived notions about the gay lifestyle that are just revolting. These venues are open for the mere fact that gays want people to see what it's really like. And we're not gonna stop everybody else from having fun like us. It's a partying, and we like to hang with straight people too. Saying that gay venues should keep out straights is like saying straight venues should keep out gays. That would be idiotic, because you're not always going to be going out to pick somebody up or hook up, sometimes you just want to go dancing, or get a drink, or party with friends. Some of these men where probably doing just that, and then they got lured in with a free drink and a cute face. 

future_man
future_man

 Interesting post...As I remember in the time before HIV there was a discussion between gay men who wanted to be more mainstream and those who wanted to be more separate.

The idea from the separatists was that there were valuable things about being gay that needed to be protected. One way to accomplish that was suggested made alot of sense...create communities which could provide that safety and protection.

After HIV came that discussion ended since too many gay men now were dependent on the good will of allies in other communities.  For the separatist communities, many of which formed in the countryside, it was less and less feasible to provide for the needs of those who were suffering.

Now that HIV is endemic the discussion about the value of safety in separtatism could come back again.

Yet, I would imagine it won't gain much credence before an HIV cure frees gay men from dependencies on medicines and social services.

Even then separatism probably wouldn't win the day not only since gay men are now used to a more assimilationist pattern but also since there would always be the fear of another disaster.

In S.F. for example there could always be a large earthquake.  In which case many communities would seek allies in reconstruction efforts. 

An large magnitude quake wouldn't be as devastating as HIV in S.F. in which so many of thousands of gay men died.

Yet it could take years before communities were rebuilt...the Oakland hills fire stands as a good example.

Kaibelf
Kaibelf

That's such a stupid analysis. It's like saying women deserve to be drugged and raped because they wanted to go outside like their husbands.

Moonee
Moonee

did the gays suck the dicks before being robbed ?

future_man
future_man

 Ever consider writing graphic novels?

Paul E. Ester
Paul E. Ester

As if hustlers ripping off old men is new...

Instead of the ridiculous advice " ask to see someone's ID before you take them home" how about take a picture of them with a smart phone, with an app that puts their picture in the cloud. Even if they steal your phone, you'll have a good memory of getting f'ed.

Alva
Alva

How can they spin this into a hate crime?  Don't worry they will somehow.

Patrick Connors
Patrick Connors

"Those people" are just the living end, aren't "they?" 

Pedro Goldstein
Pedro Goldstein

Those damn queers need to be spending their evenings in church praying to Jesus H. Christ above to forgive their evil and sinful ways and NOT getting loaded in some fruit bar looking for some young guy to get anal sex from.

MR WRITE
MR WRITE

You are such a pathetic individual and I pray the hate away from you sir...........

Tikijazz
Tikijazz

Ease up on Pedro...I think this was a sarcastic posting since if you click on the name, it takes you to Pedro's facebook profile. 

Dean Clark
Dean Clark

 Pedro a little sympathy here would be nice. Believe it or not it happens in the straight world too. Pedro you are an example of individuals who need psychiatric counseling for many issues. Humans are humans and you should treat everyone with respect. If you do not like the dialogue then stay out of it with your worthless comments. I dated a guy that had the same attitude as you do Pedro, and I will tell you the same thing I told him, don't worry and be bitter there are other guys in the world with small dicks too!

Roberto Guzman
Roberto Guzman

Where the hell is your brain? Your callous and bigoted remarks are protected by civil rights. But that doesn't mean Christ is at all interested in what you have to say when it comes to your ignorance or outright stupidity. Keep your head up your big ass and shut the hell up. It is obvious somewhere your soul was lost in purgatory and your compassion went with it.

Raoul Owl
Raoul Owl

Oh, Sweetums, maybe you should look up S A T I R E  in the dictionary. 

Raoul Owl
Raoul Owl

Doesn't anyone get that he's being funny here?  The Jesus H. Christ should have tipped you off.  LOL

Sam Molloy
Sam Molloy

That's what I thought too. Nobody's that stupid. Except Rick Santorum.

future_man
future_man

 LOL...there's just about every negative gay stereotype in there! 

Nothing new here.  People work, people take time off and seek each other's company.

People drink, and people have sex with each other in ways they enjoy. 

No participation required by those who are not interested.

Doesn't really help if you were to get attached to the outcomes of other people's lives.

Jay
Jay

But I love anal sex!!

Dragon Sapphire
Dragon Sapphire

And you, Pedro Goldstein, need to be spending your own evenings in church, praying to Jesus Christ, asking Him for forgiveness for your Pharisee attitude, thinking you are better than those "damn queers" of whom you speak with such sef-righteous judgement. Study the Bible mate, before you preach it.

Pedro Goldstein
Pedro Goldstein

Go to Home Depot and pick up a day laborer for sex, maybe that will jog loose whatever crawled up you ass.

Raoul Owl
Raoul Owl

Hey, buddy, WHICH Home Depot?  I'm on it.  Meet your there?   ;-)

Yeb Bebe
Yeb Bebe

Pedro, go back to smuggling drugs from the border. That's all people like YOU are good for. The truth is, if our state had less 'Pedros' living in it. Gay rights and gay marriage would be here.

Frankie Ninja
Frankie Ninja

Pedro Goldstein... Latino and Jewish? Holier than thow? Ha oxymoron!

Frankie Ninja
Frankie Ninja

Oh I recognize satire and wit when I see it. Maybe you are not familiar with the definition of those words you now cower behind to make a half hearted attempt at intellect. Clearly you missed the mark. I stand by my comment. And IT is neither satire or wit.

Raoul Owl
Raoul Owl

Maybe you didn't get it that both his name and the piece are are are a great example of satire, humor, wit?

M299p792s458
M299p792s458

 Fascists blame the victim to.  Your sense of right and wrong could use a re-evaluation.  That is not to mention you are shoving your "moralistic" view on everyone else.

Sexual orientation IS NOT A CHOICE.  RELIGION IS A CHOICE!

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