Ross Mirkarimi Update: Allegations of Abuse "Out of Context." Say What?

• This story is so plausible it is scary and very typical of the types of fights married couples have - especially when one of the partners (usually a woman) is continually expected to sacrifice her needs to further the career of the other partner. Thanks for the profile - it may not be anywhere near the case but I would not be surprised if it was. 

• It's true, he is a pothead just like his buddy Terrence Hallinan.

• The battered victim is acting *exactly* like a battered victim who is being pressured to keep her mouth shut by the aggressor's friends. She is getting pressure from all sides. She has caved in. (In Venezuela, battered women are expected to just shut up and take it)

• Yes, because of course a Venezuelan cannot learn to speak English.  She is an educated woman who has a good grasp of English, and she seems to understand the common term of taking things "out-of-context." If she wanted the issue kept private, then she should have decided to keep it to herself, rather than going to her neighbor friend and asking her to take pictures to document the bruise. People should not rough up their significant others, there is never an excuse.  However, if said significant others are stupid enough to put up with being abused, then they should not complain and get self-righteous when the police get involved because they decided to go blab about how they were being abused.  I assume on some level she really wants help, which is why she told her friend.  Of course, she is going through the motions of denial now because she is scared or embarrassed or still in love, etc,  I understand the psychology behind it, but now the wheels have been set in motion and the events will play out. 

• It's fascinating when a "progressive" pol is accused of Neanderthal behavior.  People do somersaults trying to avoid saying the wrong thing.  People's public and private lives are not always a mirror image.  A woman went to her neighbor's house and complained that her husband grabbed her so hard, he left a mark. She asked for documentation of the injuries, too.  Why? The incident was reported to the SFPD, who must investigate.  How hard do you have to grab a person to leave a physical mark?  Guaranteed, if this involved an African-American man down the Point, he'd be charged already.  Out of context...ridiculous.  Politics.

• I hope you had a nice wank while spinning that tale. Sounds juicy.

• Ouch! But you can easily imagine how it went down. Pothead soon to be next sheriff, doobie in hand, priming himself for New Year's eve, tells his recently wedded wife and new mother, the former soap opera star from Venezuela, that she must stay home with the child now in the midst of his terrible two's while he cements political relationships while partying across the city on New Year's. Did she understand him right? Her English isn't so good, but did he say he was leaving her alone on New Year's with the kid who just won't go to bed and wakes up 4 to 5 times a night, and they don't have any family around to help out, not like that Chris Daly who shipped his kids to Fairfield for free grandparents help, on New Year's? Yes, the sheriff elect says, he is a public figure and needs to grease the politco wheels on an important night like this by visiting numerous parties and somebody has to stay home with the kid. "Qué coño," she screams, "is this why I came to the Land of Plenty, to be treated like dirt by a Pinche when I was a star of the TV, pampered and doted upon in my native Venezula?" The soon-to-be sheriff has had enough. Why is this woman always screaming at him and carrying on about how hard it is to look after a kid? His nerves are jangled. It's the effect of the weed (great stuff from the Pot Club run by his former lover in the lower Haight, maybe he should stop by and see her on this special day) and shot of Tequila he had earlier. Goddammnit! He grabs her by the arm and tells her to please shut the fuck up for once. She hollers something in Spanish. Next thing you know  she's at the neighbor's, the kindly woman downstairs, telling her what the Pinche did, and the neighbor, a fourth wave feminist, gets out the video camera and films the big bruise on her arm where the Pinche sheriff grabbed her too hard. And two days later it's in the papers! Holy fuck! Damage control time!

• You seem to forget that Lopez is from Venezuela. English is not her first language so we cannot assume that the words she says conveys what she means. You're taking her 'out of context' comment out of context.

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